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"Discipline in compassion is knowing that being truly compassionate sometimes requires withholding compassion. Because compassion is not an expression of the bestower's needs but a response to the recipient's needs."

Day 16 - Gevurah of Tiferet: Discipline in Compassion

For compassion to be effective and healthy it needs to be disciplined and focused. It requires discretion both to whom you express compassion, and in the measure of the compassion itself. It is recognizing when compassion should be expressed and when it should be withheld or limited. Discipline in compassion is knowing that being truly compassionate sometimes requires withholding compassion. Because compassion is not an expression of the bestower's needs but a response to the recipient's needs.

Exercise for the day: Express your compassion in a focused and constructive manner by addressing someone's specific needs.

For me, this needs a book of examples for me to understand it and discuss it.

"Compassion is unconditional love" and "being truly compassionate sometimes requires withholding compassion" is a confusion in terms, clearly we're not talking about withholding unconditional love which is a contradiction in terms.

I understand both but it seems that communicating unconditional love also has to be done somehow somewhere along the way.